Guilt and Shame
Transcript
Good morning. My name is Chet. I'm one of the pastors here. We are going to be in Genesis chapter 2 today. We're going to start out there. So if you want to go ahead and grab your Bibles, we'll be in Genesis chapter 2.
If you're in a blue and white Bible, that's going to be on page 2. So you won't have to go very far. And if you don't own a Bible, take one of these blue and white Bibles with you. That's our gift to you. If you see a nice leather one laying around and you want to grab that one, that's cool. But that will be somebody else's, but you can have it.
We forgive you. We're going to jump right in this morning, and then we're going to talk a little bit about, after we read a little bit and kind of set up what we're doing today, we'll talk a little more about the series we're in and kind of how we're thinking about and approaching this. But we're going to be in Genesis chapter 2. We're going to start in verse 22. And what we're picking up on is God has created man, and he's now creating woman, and then he's going to kind of bring them together, and we're going to get to see this picture at the beginning of the Bible. So 22.
And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man, he made into a woman, and he brought her to the man. Then the man said, This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh, and she should be called woman because she was taken out of man. Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. Okay, so if you will, this is the first marriage in the Bible. God's created Adam and Eve, and he brings them together, and he brings them to each other, and they kind of have a marriage ceremony where this is, you belong to her and she belongs to you.
And what it says right there at the end of that chapter is that the man and the woman were both naked and not ashamed. And what that is, is a picture of perfect unity, perfect transparency, perfect openness, that neither one of them had anything to be afraid of. Anything that the other one would find out about them. Anything that they had to try to hide or cover up. That they could be completely themselves. That they were fully known and fully loved.
They didn't have anything to be worried that the other one would eventually discover. Nothing to be concerned about. Can you imagine that? Perfect and complete transparency. No amount of hesitation when it comes to, yeah, I'm an open book. Can you imagine?
Anybody can go home, talk to your parents, interview them, ask any question they like, and you have no concern. Anybody can flip through all your old yearbooks. Anybody can take your phone right now and flip through all the pictures in your phone. Some of you, you hand somebody your phone and you're like, hey, look at this picture of my dog. And then you see they start swiping and immediately your blood pressure is like, and you're trying to think like, maybe you don't usually take inappropriate pictures or anything, but you're immediately like, did I? Did I?
Could you imagine? Not having anything to hide. Not having anything to be concerned about. Anybody could go talk to any of your old relationships. Ask them any question they like and you wouldn't have any amount of hesitation, tension. They were completely, fully known, fully loved.
That's the picture we're given here this morning with Adam and Eve when they first come together. And what we're going to be talking about today is we're in our third week of our Killjoy series. What we've been spending our time on is basically talking about there's some things going on in the church, some things that we've gotten used to. Struggles and sins that have become normal. That it's just like, yeah, like some of us have begun to believe that this is just how life works for me. You've just learned to accept it.
Yeah, it's not great, but I'm used to it. It's kind of like after a while you don't notice the smell in your own house. Your friend comes over, they walk in. I mean, I think they do a whole series of commercials on this now, but this is a real thing. You can walk in someone's house and you're like, oh, y'all can't smell that anymore. I think the commercials call that nose blind.
And there's some of us who've become that with certain sins and certain struggles that we have. We've just accepted it. It's become a part of us. It's become so normal for us that we've just gotten used to it. And it's actually robbing us of joy. It's robbing us of the benefits of the genuine relationship that we have with Jesus as he's redeemed us and made us his.
And so what we're doing in this series, we've actually made some books where we're just trying to walk through and as best we can dig into that and then take it to Jesus to redeem it. So when we have in our books, if you hadn't grabbed one yet and we're walking through this with our community groups, I would encourage you to grab one of our Killjoy books, hop in a group. There's going to be inventories in there, something we stole from a recovery program. And then we've made some ourselves. But basically for the purposes of not just looking into our hearts and seeing what's there, but looking in and then taking it to Jesus to have him change us and make us new and go to work on us.
And so that's what we're doing in this series. Today specifically we're talking about guilt and shame. Guilt and shame. And for those of us who have just grown used to this, hopefully today we'll see how Jesus steps in and begins to interact with our guilt and shame and set us free. All right, so let's keep reading.
We're going to jump to chapter 3. God had told Adam and Eve a very specific tree not to eat from. It was the one rule he gave them. And they ate from it. And the moment they ate from it, sin entered the world and brought with it all of the evil and brokenness that's ever happened throughout humanity and brought with it guilt and shame. And so we're going to pick up on what it tells us here in verse 7.
So this is right after they've eaten the fruit. It says, Then the eyes of both were opened and they knew that they were naked. And they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves loincloths. So this moment that they ate of the fruit that they weren't supposed to eat of, it says their eyes were opened and they knew that they were naked. It was that moment in your dream where you're given the presentation at work or you're up in front of class and suddenly you realize that you're naked. That shame and that fear washes over you.
It had to be terrifying for them because they'd never experienced it. This moment of overwhelming shame. And they feel so exposed. That's what shame does. That's what guilt does. You feel so exposed.
You feel so out in the open. You feel like you want to, you have those moments in life where you just want to disappear. If you could just disappear, that would be for the best. I remember in, I was in fifth grade. My teacher was up in front of the class, teaching, I guess is probably what she was doing. She was talking to all of us.
She was standing near my desk and so I was on the front row. Now, I don't know why I was on the front row. I don't know if that was, like she chose that or if I chose that. I don't really think it has much to do with the story, so just try to pay attention. But I was on the front row.
How I got there, irrelevant. I'm on the front row. She's talking and I dropped my pencil. Complete accident. Just dropped my pencil. Innocent thing.
I bent over to get it. Now, you have to know something about me. You know, middle school, fifth grade. I was, I was portly. If, you know, like, I mean, I wasn't, I wasn't like huge, but I did have to, I shopped, like all my pants said husky on them. Like some of you, some of you know about husky pants.
I was in that section. And so I bent over to pick up my pencil. And when I did, I passed gas. Loudly. And there was this moment where I just froze. Like I was bent over getting my pencil.
She's standing right here by my desk. And I just freeze. And you know, you're thinking like, maybe I'm the only one who heard that. There's a moment of dead silence, which, which just made it worse. And then the entire room just, I mean, erupted in laughter. And then, so like, I wanted, like, if I could have disappeared, that would have been for the best.
I was pretty sure, like, if I had been able to cut off the lights, I would have blown in the dark at that moment. Like, it was, it was terrible. And she, then the teacher, because she's going to be really helpful, starts talking about how that's natural. And everybody passes gas. And like, it was, it made it way worse. But guys, I feel uncomfortable just having told you this story.
So fifth grade me was mortified. Like, but that's what happened to Adam and Eve in this moment. They bit into this apple and heart rate starts racing and blood rushes to their face and they, they want to disappear. They immediately feel absolutely exposed. And the story I just told, and some of you have similar stories, that's embarrassment. That's, that is so far down on the scale of shame and guilt that they were overwhelmed.
So what'd they do? It says they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves loincloths. Do you know how long it took to sew leaves together? First of all, they're inventing clothes at this point. So they don't really have much to go off of.
They're sewing leaves together. Do you know how long that took? Do you know how difficult that was? Me either. But probably difficult in a long time.
Like, this was a very intentional process. And here, here's what happens throughout the rest of history. All of humanity has lined up behind Adam and Eve in sin. All of humanity has lined up behind Adam and Eve with the guilt and the shame that comes along with the brokenness in this world. And all of us have lined up behind Adam and Eve trying to sew together fig leaves. Trying to do whatever we can to cover our shame.
To bury it. To hide it. To mask it. To misdirect. Like, if you've got shame over here, you want to be really good over here, you want to have everybody look this direction. We've come up with a lot of different methods, but it's all sewing together fig leaves to try to hide our shame.
To try to hide, to mask, to cover what's broken, what's wrong, what's messed up. Let's keep reading. So verse 7 ends with, they made themselves loincloths. And they heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden in the cool of the day. And the man and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the Lord God among the trees of the garden. But the Lord called to the man and said to him, where are you?
And he said, I heard the sound of you in the garden and I was afraid because I was naked and I hid myself. So, quick question. Adam and Eve naked? Adam says he is. He says, I was naked so I hid myself. But verse 7 said they made clothes.
I think one of the things that's showing us, and I think we all know to be true, is that any amount of work we do to cover up our shame ultimately doesn't work. That as soon as God showed up, they had to hide because they were like, I'm still exposed. You could see right through me. And this shame and this guilt has worked already in this perfect garden where there was a perfect relationship between a man and his wife and there was a perfect relationship between humanity and God and what it's done is it's worked to alienate. The man and his wife are no longer naked and unashamed but they're covering themselves because of their shame and they're hiding from God.
And all of us are like them. Some of us in here have spent years sewing together fig leaves. You've gotten really good at it. You have a very ornate fig leaf facade. But like Adam and Eve, let me ask you, do you feel comfortable?
Are you free? Because as soon as God showed up, they immediately felt exposed again. And for some of us, you've worked at it for years but it still feels so fragile, so fleeting and like it could easily fall apart at any point. I want to read a few definitions to help us understand guilt and shame a little better to help us picture this in our minds and then we'll spend some time looking at different passages in the Bible and trying to understand how God interacts with our guilt and shame and how we can ultimately be free from it. Guilt and shame are overlapping issues. So let's talk about guilt first.
Guilt is the condition. It can be one, the condition of having broken the law, not lived up to the standard or hurt someone. So it's the, I'm condemned for something that I did. I'm guilty for something that I did, for some behavior that I had. It can also be too, guilt can be the feeling of responsibility or remorse for some offense, transgression or harm that you've caused. And so what that means is it can be a state of being, you're actually guilty, you've actually broken the law, you've actually harmed someone, you've actually done something.
It can also be the feeling of remorse, of regret. So here's how that works. It means that you can be actually guilty and not feel guilty. Or you can be both. You can be actually guilty and feel guilty. Or you can just feel guilty, feel remorseful, feel like something is wrong but not have any real thing that you can point to to say this is exactly why I feel like this.
You can be haunted by something. And some of us in this room are haunted by guilt, crushed by it, followed around by it. Shame is the lingering sense that something is wrong with me because of something I did or something done to me or something I'm associated with. I'm unacceptable because of this. So some of you feel shame because of your family background.
Some of you feel shame because of things that have happened to you or things that have been said to you. Some of you have spent years just trying to get over things that your parents said to you, that people said to you, did to you. And you feel like there's something wrong with me now. There's something broken about me now. There's something marked now. I'm a failure.
I'm a reject. I'm damaged goods. I'm worthless. This idea that you carry around in yourself some form of Mark or scar. It can be broad and vague. It can be very specific.
Some of you, maybe you just feel like I'm just trying to get a win. Like I just, at this point, I'm just trying to, I'm just trying to get a win. And I heard one pastor say that that's shame at work. When you feel like I just gotta get a win. I just gotta, I just need to have something to show. Like I, I'm a South Carolina fan.
We beat Tennessee. That's the only game I wanna talk about for the rest of the season. Because I felt like I just want us to get a win. And the reason was I'm pretty ashamed of everything else. And some of you, that's what life looks like right now. It's a, I'm just trying to get a win.
I just need something that I can point to to say that I have value. I just need something that I can point to and say, this is working right now. And it shows up all over the place. Shame shows up for me when I, when I talk to a mechanic. Because I don't know anything about cars. Like if the car's broken down and the little, you know, the little things on E and that light's on, I'm like, I got this.
But otherwise, I don't, I don't, I can't do much. I can change the oil. I can call somebody in our church who knows something about cars. But when I talk to a mechanic, like shame shows up when I begin to pretend like I know what they're talking about. This mechanic can come out and be like, alright, look here. We had to retorque the TIG whistle on your chassis plate.
And I would be like, yeah, retorque that sucker. Shame is what immediately makes me want to tell y'all right now, I'm pretty sure a TIG whistle isn't a real thing. Like, I know enough about cars to say that. But, like, shame goes to work all over the place. For some of us, shame is at work when, it's the reason why you can't lose at a game. It's the reason why you care more about winning the game than the person you're playing with.
It's the reason why you throw fits over a game of spades or Monopoly. Monopoly's terrible, but other games. You can't lose. You have to prove that you're the best. For some of you, this is why you can't lose an argument. You can't.
You can't show weakness. You can't admit that you're wrong. You're arguing with somebody and they make a really good point and you just blow past it. You don't say, oh no, that's a good point. You got me there. Why?
Because you've got to prove that you have value. You've got to prove that you have work. You're trying to work away from where you're ashamed. This is why you pretend like you know stuff you don't know. This is why you wait in the conversations and just act like you have information you don't have. This is why, for some of you, if someone points out sin in you, your immediate response is, oh yeah?
Well, you did this. You can't just listen to what they say. You've got to point out how they're wrong. That's shame. See, we're all hiding. We're all sowing fig leaves.
We're all trying to mask what's going on. This is why we have, in our groups, we have like halfway confession. So we're talking about like we're going to confess some sin and people will be like, yeah, I just need y'all to be praying for me. You know how I got some anger stuff and I just have really been struggling. Or you see him later and you ask, hey, you told us to ask you about that. How's that going?
Yeah, it's been a struggle but I'm alright. That doesn't mean anything. You've said no words that mean anything. What's been a struggle? How are you alright? Yeah, I'm good.
This is halfway confess. We want to get as close to as close to being in the light without actually having to expose ourselves. Without actually having to let anybody see, I'm not okay. that's shame. That's guilt at work in us. It's that we feel not lovable as we are, not welcomed as we are, that we cannot be fully known and fully loved. We've begun to believe the lie that this is normal.
That this is how life is going to work. Some of you have been repeating to yourself over and over again, they can be known, they can be loved, they can be honest, but I can't. They can be real about who they are. They can confess. They can say how their marriage is going. They can say how their relationships have been.
They can tell their story about what's happened in their past, but I can't. I'm going to always feel like this. My life is always going to work like this because of what I've done or what's been done to me. And for some of us in this room, there's an overwhelming, crippling sense of guilt and shame and your life has been you working to overcome that. Every day feels like an uphill battle to fix something that you feel like is broken in you or to hide something that you feel like is going on in your life or something that's happened to you. There's a story and it's an intense, heartbreaking story from 2 Samuel and we're going to look at a quote on the screen here in a minute, but I just want to set it up for us.
King David has a bunch of children. He's king at the time and he's got a son and a daughter and they're both his children but he's got them for two different wives so they're half brother and sister to one another. And the text tells us that the son falls in love with his sister or his half sister and so he devises a plan with one of his friends on how he can rape his half sister, how he can take her to himself. And so he decides to get her to, he pretends to be sick and gets her to make food for himself so that he can take her and make her his. When she comes to feed him he's going to ask her to cook and when she comes to feed him then he'll have his opportunity and there's this passage where it tells us what happens when he comes to her.
And 2 Samuel 13, 11-13 says this, But when she brought them near, that's the food she'd made, near him to eat, he took hold of her and said to her, come lie with me my sister. She answered him, no my brother, do not violate me for such a thing is not done in Israel. Do not do this outrageous thing. As for me, where can I carry my shame? And as for you, you would be as one of the outrageous fools in Israel. She looks at him and she says, where would I take my shame?
Where would I carry my shame? If this happened to me, what would I do with the shame? And she says, and if you did this, you'd be an outrageous fool. And for those in the church who feel the way she felt, what am I going to do with my shame? I want to say a few things. First, I'm so sorry.
I'm so sorry that what happened to you, that you feel like you've been marked or scarred. God, I want you to know that that was not God's original intent and plan for humanity, that he hates sin, that he's sovereign and good, but he hates sin, so much so that he was willing to die for it. And you are not to blame for the sins of others. But the question still is there, what do I do with my shame? Where do I carry it? And for those of you who feel guilt for something that you've done, and she says you'll be an outrageous fool.
Some of you maybe think, yeah, that's me. Maybe you wouldn't use those words. Maybe you'd say I'm a terrible person. I'm a complete idiot. I'm absolutely worthless. What do we do?
What's the Bible's answer to this? How does God respond to Adam and Eve in the midst of their guilt and shame? And then how does he respond to us when we say I have nowhere to carry this? I don't know what to do with this overwhelming guilt. I don't know what to do with this shame. The beginning of the answer is found in Genesis and how God responds.
And we're going to move from this point, we're going to spend a little bit of time in Genesis and then we're going to move through a couple of different passages in scripture to help us get a complete answer to how God responds to our guilt and our shame. And before we do that, I want to take a second to just pray for us. So let's do that now. God, I pray that in the time that remains, that your Holy Spirit would be at work to help us to see how you respond to us when all we want to do is hide. how you responded to us when the best plan we could come up with was to cover ourselves and run. And I pray that through your Holy Spirit you would make your response more real, more palpable to us than it has ever been.
And you would cement in our hearts and minds today your overwhelming love for us in the midst of our guilt and shame. In Jesus' name, amen. Back to Genesis. We already read some of this in Genesis chapter 3. It says, they heard, this is verse 8, they heard the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden in the cool of the day. And the man and his wife hid themselves from the presence of the Lord God among the trees in the garden.
But the Lord God called to the man and said, where are you? The first thing God does to us in the midst of our guilt and our shame is that he pursues us. Because our guilt and our shame makes us want to hide. Some of you feel like there's no way I could talk to God right now. There's no way I could pray right now. There's no way I could be brought in front of him right now.
There's no way I could even talk to people in the church or talk to people in our community group. There's no way. And God's immediate response is to pursue. It's God that seeks out the first contact with the man and the woman. And then verse 21, God talks to them about the effects of their sin and the issues that are going to follow this. And then he sums it up with this in verse 21.
And the Lord God made for Adam and for his wife garments of skins and clothed them. He made for Adam and his wife garments of skins and clothed them. Okay. Skin is not just lying around. Fig leaves are. Fig leaves are what we have access to.
But skin has to come from somewhere. And what we see in this text is that God kills an animal to make a better covering for Adam and Eve. His response is not, no, no, no, don't worry, this isn't a big deal. No, no, no, no, you can be completely uncovered. No, no, no, don't worry about the shame that you're feeling. His response is, no, you do need a covering, but I'm going to give you a better one.
That's how he responds to Adam and Eve, and ultimately throughout time turn to Isaiah 61. We're going to read, this is what we read earlier. Isaiah 61, it's on page 401. As we continue to see how God responds to us in the midst of our guilt and our shame. Guilt for what we've done, sense of having failed, shame for what's been done to us, or the fact that we can't be lovable as we are. This passage, I love this passage from Isaiah because it's what Jesus, when he comes to one of the synagogues in the book of Luke, he takes this out, he opens this scroll, he reads the first section, he sits down and says, that's been fulfilled in your hearing, meaning I've come here to accomplish what I just read.
So what we're reading is when Jesus steps in, he says this prophecy that was made by the prophet Isaiah, I've actually come to fulfill this, I've come to accomplish this, and this is how he responds to guilt and shame. The spirit of the Lord God is upon me, so this is Jesus, this is fulfilled in him, because the Lord has anointed me to bring good news to the poor. He has sent me to bind up the broken hearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to those who are bound. Jesus says, I've come first and foremost to take those who are broken, those who are hurt, who feel like they can't ever love again, or be loved again, and to bind them up.
To fix their hearts and to set them free from the guilt and the shame and the sin that's been marking them and holding them captive, that's been keeping them in a prison, all the walls they've built to hide, I'm going to bring freedom and liberty, and I'm going to work in those that are broken hearted. So for you, if you say my heart's broken, it'll never love again, it'll never work again, I've been harmed, I've been hurt, he says I'm here for you. And I'm here for your heart. Verse 2, to proclaim the year of the Lord's favor and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn. I'm here to sit with you while you weep, I'm here to sit with you while you hurt, I'm here to put my arm around you, every person who is broken and hurting, I'm here.
To grant those who mourn in Zion, to give them a beautiful headdress instead of ashes. When they mourned, they would take ashes and they would put them on their head. And what he says is no, no, no, no, you're not wearing the clothes of someone who's lost someone, you're not wearing the clothes of someone who's failed, I'm going to give you a headdress, which is what they wore on a wedding day. He says instead of a widow's garment, I'm giving you a bride's address. I've come to take away your guilt and your shame and what you think your mourning is lost, forever gone, never to be recovered, and I'm making it new and I'm covering you with a wedding dress.
The oil of gladness instead of mourning, the garment of praise instead of a faint spirit, that they may be called oaks of righteousness, the planning of the Lord that he may be glorified. They shall build up the ancient ruins, they shall raise up the former devastations, they shall repair the ruined cities, the devastations of many generations. He says what do you think has been devastated? What do you think has been ruined? What's a total loss for you? It's going to be rebuilt.
I'm going to work for what you think has completely been destroyed. The parts of your soul, the parts of your heart, the parts of your past, I'm redeeming them and fixing them and rebuilding them. That's what Jesus has come to do for humanity and it's what he's come to do for us in the midst of our guilt and our shame. move to verse 7. We won't have time to walk through this whole thing. Verse 7, Instead of your shame, there should be a double portion. Instead of this honor, they shall rejoice in their lot.
Therefore, in their land, they shall possess a double portion. They shall have everlasting joy. You know the shame that follows you around? You know the shame that's overwhelming you? He says I'm giving you a second helping of my goodness and my grace. There's going to be everlasting joy.
Instead of shame, you get a double portion. Verse 8, For I the Lord love justice, hate robbery, and wrong. I will faithfully give them their recompense and I will make an everlasting covenant with them. Move to verse 10. This is the response. So the first is what God's going to do, what Jesus is going to do.
And this section in verse 10 is how we get to begin to respond. I will greatly rejoice in the Lord. My soul shall exult in my God, for he has closed me with the garments of salvation. He has covered me with the robe of righteousness. As a bridegroom decks himself like a priest with a beautiful headdress and as a bride adorns herself with her jewels. You see, Genesis began with this man and woman brought together who were fully known and fully loved.
And Isaiah says that's how we get to respond to Jesus. Jesus. That he wants us like a groom wants his bride. That he desires us. That he loves us. And that Jesus knows everything about us but he's gone to work to cover us, to clothe us with his righteousness and to make us his.
Jesus loves you, pursues you, desires you, and wants to make you his the same way that a groom wants to take his bride and have her belong to him and have her to cherish. That's Jesus' response to the church. How? How does he do that? How does he get to respond to us in the midst of our brokenness, in the midst of our filth and our dirtiness and in the midst of all the things that have happened to me and all the things that I've done? How does he respond to me that way?
The answer is the cross. And on the cross he does two things that counteract and go to work on our guilt and our shame. The first one we're going to look at is because we have to ask how does he handle my guilt? 2 Corinthians 5.21 We're going to have the verse up here. For our sake he, that's God, made him, that's Jesus. So for our sake God made Jesus to be sin who knew no sin so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.
This is the same thing Isaiah just said. He clothes us with righteousness. God took your sin and placed it on Jesus. Jesus became your sin. For those of you who have harmed somebody who have abused somebody who have still feel the lingering guilt about how you've treated your children and how you spoke to people and what you did in high school and college and what you did to your first wife what you did like those of you who have this lingering over you he became that and went to the cross. He became our sin.
The worst in all of us was placed on Jesus and he became our sin was nailed to a cross and when he did that we became his righteousness. He clothed us with all that was good in himself. All the love that he deserves all the grace that he deserves he's clothed us with. Yeah but what about what happened to me? I know he I know he pays for guilt I know he forgives sin but what about what's happened to me? What about the shame that I have?
What about even though I'm forgiven what about this shame that I carry around? This embarrassment this feeling of being exposed. We're going to turn to Ephesians 5. Paul in Ephesians 5 is writing a letter to a church and he's explaining to husbands and wives how to love one another specifically in the section we're going to read he's talking to husbands and the way he does it is he points to Jesus and he points to the church and he says this is how Jesus has treated us and he says husbands this is how you ought to treat your spouse. So I just want us to look and see how Jesus treats us.
Ephesians 5 we'll pick up in verse 25 husbands love your wife as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. Christ is Jesus the church is all of those who he's redeemed who he's saved who've placed their faith in him. So if you are a follower of Jesus if you are a follower of Christ you are in the church. So what he says is husbands love your wife the way that Christ modeled for us and so we're going to take a minute to look at what Christ did. He says Christ loved the church so much that he gave himself up for her meaning that Jesus came on a specific rescue mission for those he was redeeming for those he was saving for those he loved and he died to redeem us to make the church his.
Redeeming for those he was saving for those he loved and he died to redeem us to make the church his. He died to make you his. Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her verse 26 that he might sanctify her that means clean and set apart make her special is a way to say that that he might sanctify her having cleansed her
By the washing of water with the word so that he might present the church to himself in splendor without spot or wrinkle or any such thing that she might be holy and blameless and without blemish. Jesus died on the cross to take the church and to present her to himself spotless without wrinkle without blemish that if you are in the church you stand
Before God before Christ completely covered completely free without spot or blemish or wrinkle or anything like it he says or any such thing you name it it doesn't make it there you name what you think it would be that would come with you and it doesn't make it there there is no spot or blemish
Or wrinkle he's redeemed you to present you to him as a husband presents a bride to himself that he's covered you completely now I know you well enough and I've been a pastor long enough it's not been real long but it's been long enough to know that some of you who know enough theology are trying to argue with me and so let's argue you're saying in your head yeah yeah yeah but that's that's the church
That's big C church that's not me specifically yes I'm a Christian but that's what he's saying is he did that to the entire church what he he did that to all of those who belong to him that the whole church gets to be presented and to himself and what happens is you try to push it off on the church and act like it doesn't somehow apply to yourself and so it somehow doesn't count
To you that yes he I get like swept up with the church but I'm I'm on the tail end I'm on the fringes I'm kind of loved because Jesus loves all of them and I can hang out with them and he loves me but here's what you're saying just so you know when you're making that argument you're saying yeah yeah he does it to the whole church
But in the midst of the whole church I'm a spot wrinkle blemish no such thing no such thing not in the church not because of Jesus not because of what he's done for us that Jesus the God of the universe has died to present the entire church without a spot without a wrinkle without a blemish that we stand before him completely clothed in white that's how
That's how Revelation pictures this for us it shows the throne of God and it shows all of the saints all of the church all of those who've been saved by him dressed in white before God that when we stand before God we're clothed in the righteousness of Jesus that if God right now said okay church it's time to take you to task okay I'm calling you in front of me present yourself
You get to walk in front of him blameless because of Jesus righteous because of Jesus because you've been clothed by Jesus some of you are saying yeah but I I can't get rid of this I don't I don't know how to get rid of this scar I don't know how to get rid of this Mark I'm stained by this Jesus dies he goes to the cross he goes to the grave he rises again he's glorified at this point he's back to being healthy
He's back to being alive he rose from the grave then he meets Thomas and Thomas says I won't believe unless I see holes in his hands a scar on his side and Jesus still has holes in his hands and a scar on his side and he shows him to Thomas and in the book of Revelation it says look the lion of the tribe of Judah and John's writing this down and he says I look to see the lion of the tribe of Judah which would be Jesus and he says I didn't see a lion I saw a lamb
That looked like it had been slain the marks of your guilt and your shame exist into eternity they're not on you they're on Jesus the marks of what I've done the marks of what have been done to me exist forever in eternity on the lamb that was slain but I get to wear white you get to wear white what was said to you what was done to you Jesus has washed you he's clothed you
He's wrapped you in a garment of righteousness and he's presented you to himself as without a blemish or a wrinkle or a spot because he took all of our wrinkles and our stains and our spots and our blemishes and our sin and our shame on himself the answer to the question in 2 Samuel where do I carry my shame is I carry it as far as I can to get to Jesus and once it's at Jesus he carries it on his back up a hill
Onto a cross into a tomb and he carries it into eternity and he's sitting right now this very moment on a throne next to the creator of the universe where he holds the marks of our shame where he holds the marks of our guilt on himself and everyone who belongs to the church is covered in a robe of righteousness and Jesus sits next to the father where he makes intercession forever and he says you can't blame them
They have no shame they have no guilt it's right here if you are in the church your guilt and your shame have been nailed to a cross have been laid in the grave have risen again and sit next to the throne of God and when we walk in front of that throne the marks of our guilt and shame are there and we're covered in righteousness and then we'll spend eternity praising the lamb who was slain because we didn't
Have to be because our shame doesn't have to follow us around because our guilt has no hold over us anymore because we have a God who loved us so much that he clothed us in righteousness and made us his Bianca's going to come back up here's how we're going to respond here's how we get to respond believe that believe what the Bible says is true take your shame and your guilt
To Jesus and believe that he pays for it trust him the way you begin to do that is you get to start praying specifically over the things that haunt you and you get to say Jesus I don't have shame for this anymore when they said this it's not true anymore when I did this this guilt is gone you get to start naming it specifically
As you pray to him and you praise him that he's paid for it that he's covered it you get to read these passages and remind yourself I wear white I'm clothed in righteousness the way we respond is not to do something not to earn something because Jesus has already done it and he's already earned it the way we respond is we get to take it to him and say you've covered it you've paid for this I've been made new because of you secondly you get to respond as you walk through
The killjoy books by showing up to your group and maybe being honest for the very first time you get to walk into your community group this week and you get to lay your fig leaves down because they don't make you righteous they have no power to save they have no ability to cover you but Jesus has made you righteous he's clothed you in a garment of salvation he's wrapped you in a robe of righteousness and you get to say hey this would have
Crushed me this would have destroyed me I should have been destroyed by this but Jesus has paid for it Jesus has covered me and I'm celebrating the righteousness I have by being able to be honest and not ashamed open but not smothered by guilt and then your community group gets to respond by saying yes isn't Jesus amazing that he stands before God and he intercedes for us that he went to the cross
For us and that we're all covered that you don't have to feel shame for that you don't have to feel guilt for that that we get to respond by believing the gospel and being set free that he really does set captives free and right now this morning we get to respond by taking communion where the church celebrates by partaking in the broken body of Jesus and his spilled blood and reminding ourselves
That that is what makes us okay not our ability to hide not our ability to put on a mask not our ability to be good to go back in time and fix something or to do so many good things now that we can pay for it but that Jesus' death on the cross his resurrection saves us clothes us makes us his and so that's for the church if you're a Christian you get to celebrate that way
If you're not a Christian here this morning there is no answer for 2 Samuel for you you have nowhere to carry your shame you have no way to not be an outrageous fool outside of Jesus only Jesus can take your guilt can take your shame and can set you free only Jesus you're not going to find that anywhere else you're not going to find that in any other religion you're not going to find that anywhere but Christ and anywhere but the cross and anywhere but the empty tomb
So I'd invite you to place your faith in Jesus today and take communion for the very first time let's pray God we're righteous we wear white because you took our sin and you took our shame because you were stripped bare and nailed to a cross we get to be clothed because you died we get to have life God we praise you we thank you that we get to be the people that celebrate forever with everlasting joy clothed in righteousness dressed like we're going to a wedding to celebrate forever
Your goodness and your grace and I pray specifically for those in our church family who struggle with shame and guilt that they would find so much freedom so much joy in the cross they begin to be honest with their groups they begin to live a life as if they're clothed in righteousness as if they're dressed for a wedding in Jesus name we pray Amen
Oct 30